How To Travel With Your Bestie And Not Want To Kill Each Other
5 tips to avoid the drama and stay friends.
Travelling with your best friend may seem like a good idea at the time – you’ve known them forever, you get along great and you’re so alike that you’re almost interchangeable – but you really can have too much of a good thing. Your dream friend-cation can quickly turn into a nightmare if you’re not on the same page when it comes to key things, like if they spent two hours getting ready every morning while you’re sitting ready by the door with a case of the eye-rolls, stinging to get out there and explore.
However, with a little bit of planning and a lot of honesty, travelling with your bestie can also bring you closer and give you a bunch of those ‘forever’ memories. Here are our top five tips to avoid the drama and preserve your friendship on the road.
#1 Plan ahead… together
Set aside time to plan your upcoming trip together and never make an executive decision on your own. Firstly, because this is a trip for both of you to enjoy so make sure it’s not all about what you want. And secondly, because you don’t want to take the sole blame when you book a stinker of a hotel 23 kilometres from the nearest bus station. Plus, planning is half the fun – there’s nothing better than a beer or a cocktail with your bestie as you pour over some amazing travel inspo.
#2 Money, money, money
Discuss your budgets beforehand. I’ve heard of more than one friendship go down in flames after a certified camper/hostel expert paired up with a five-star luxe-lover and attempted to negotiate Europe with completely different ideas of what travel actually is. Make sure you figure out what each of you considers a realistic daily budget, what standard of accommodation you want to stay in and what happens if you run out of money, and always be honest about your budget when you’re on the road.
#3 Time outs: pick a safe word
My bestie and I came to an agreement after a super-grumpy-non-morning-person (me) lashed out during a disturbingly cheery 4am wakeup call from an eternally effervescent early-bird (her) – the ‘time out’ safe word. Basically, you pick a word without personal meaning (Banana! Tulip! Parrot!) and when one person says it, it means they need quiet time. It’s not personal, it’s not a fight – it’s just a time out. It saved more than one tired/hangry/frustrated fight over nothing, and actually often ended up in a giggle.
#4 Don’t miss out – even if you go it alone
Resentment is a bitch, and the last thing you want to do is hold something against your bestie for the rest of time because you didn’t get to see #32 on your bucket list due to his/her disinterest. It’s OK to go it alone – simply explain that it’s what you came here for and it’s not personal. Perhaps even find something that you think they’d love to do at the same time that you’re not particularly interested in. It also gives you a well-needed break from each other, even if you’re getting along swimmingly.
#5 Be honest
Sometimes travel brings the best and the worst out of people, and that’s OK. The best tip is to be honest – even if you think it might hurt the other person. In the long run, you’ll be better off having a frank conversation about your issues rather than passive-aggressively hating each other for the next six weeks on your once-in-a-lifetime vacay. At the same time, you have to accept each other’s differences, put aside the small stuff, and make sure you both get an amazing experience out of it. After all, this is a holiday with your bestie – it’s what dreams are made of.